When pastor Mitchell married us he looked me in the eye and said, marriage is a commitment, and marriage is an adjustment. Other times over the years I heard pastor Mitchell say that marriage is two selfish people learning to live together under one roof.
Kathy and I did not get married to get sent out. We got married because we wanted to be married. We went through our ups and downs over the years. But when the dust settled and the smoke cleared, we were still married.
It took me years to get over the death of my dear wife. I don't know if I could ever be married again. I am willing, if the right person comes along. And I am content to stay as I am until Jesus calls me home. So married would be nice, but single is nice (most of the time).
Marriage at my age is much different than it was as a teenager. Then it was about outward appearance. Is she pretty? Now, is she kind, is she smart, can I talk to her? And, will she want me as much as I would want her? I guess I am more like the Lord now. I look less at the outward appearance and I look more at the heart.
One smart thing that pastor Eric told me is that it is always best to leave the driving to Jesus, and to trust Him to make the choices for me. So that is what I am doing today.
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