Peter Ajala implied in his sermon on marriage that looks do not matter. That is only partly correct. I think that he meant to say that looks alone will not keep two selfish people together in marriage. But looks are the first line of attraction that will cause a member of the opposite sex to notice you and want to get to know you better.
Jacob agreed to work for 7 years to give him the opportunity to marry Rachel. Why? Because Rachel was beautiful. Leah was not as pretty as her younger sister. Beauty got Rachel noticed. But in the end Leah was a better wife. And in death Rachel is buried alone but Jacob and Leah are buried together.
Preachers tell young people what to look for in a potential spouse. But no young person thinks like that. Is he cute, is she pretty, do they come to church? That's about as deep as it gets. When I was looking for a wife in Prescott all I asked was which of these girls were single. I married one of them and we lived in a married relationship till death did us part.
You do not have to be picture perfect in appearance. You have to be the best version of who you are. Someone will notice you and show interest in you and it may be that they will turn out to be perfect for you! Adam and Eve did alright with God's choice for them.
One final thought on Abagail, Nabal's wife. As bad a man and husband as Nabal was Abagail stayed married to him until he died. Some wives have a list of things that are deal breakers. But other wives are committed and they make it work if it is humanly possible. Abuse is one thing. But annoyances can be overcome. If you stay married in time it gets better.
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