Some of my friends are going camping today. They made lists of what they need to take with them. They started planning weeks ago for this. They didn't wake up this morning and say, let's go camping!
We think that romantic love is just waking up one day and there he is, or she is, the perfect match for you. That magically your perfect mate will come to you unexpectedly, like a dream.
There is a word to describe people who do not make plans to climb a mountain. The word is dead. Failure to plan is planning to fail. What makes us think that we can scale the uncertain heights of love without any kind of plan beyond what I wear or how I look?
There is a mystery to romantic love for sure. You are looking for someone who you do not know with the idea of marrying them and spending the rest of your life with them.
On the idea of finding your soul mate or finding the perfect person for you. There is no such person. No one, including you, is perfect. Instead of looking for the perfect person, maybe a better approach is to look for someone who is good enough. Find someone who you can get along with, and grow up together.
Falling in love sounds wonderful. But in reality, you marry a stranger, and then two selfish people begin the gargantuan task of learning to live together under one roof. You do not fall in love as much as you grow into love. Real love takes time to grow.
He marries her hoping she will never change. She will. She marries him determined to change him. He won't change much. The sooner a couple can accept this the quicker they will learn to love the person that they married.
You plan for months to prepare a perfect wedding. Maybe spend less time on the wedding and more time on being good enough for someone to want to get to know you. Looks may get you noticed, but they want to know you, not just appreciate how you look.
"A man who has friends must himself be friendly, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother." Prov.18:24
The end of my thoughts are; be friendly, and trust that God is better at choosing than we are.
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